Dating can seem hard. It is hard to find someone that shares your same interests. It is hard to find someone you connect with. Looking for love is definitely a hard road to travel.
Dating conversation can be the most awkward situation a person can ever find themselves in. Stating a dating conversation is frustrating. For many people just the anticipation is enough to make them not even try to find conversation starters.
In starting a conversation while dating you are actually at an advantage because you both already have something in common – you are on a date together, at the same place, with, hopefully, the same intentions. The only thing left to do is pick one of those three things to talk about and get started.
The following section explains what types of conversation starters work best in a dating situation. These tips can help you to understand why certain topics result in better conversation.
You can then use this knowledge to help yourself start some good dating conversations.
1. Observant comments.
Starting a conversation by commenting on something around you allows your date to participate in the conversation. You could make a comment about something interesting your date is wearing or about the place you are at.
Observant comments focus the conversation on something both of you can talk about and shows your date that you are at ease enough to be looking at things around you, not just focusing on yourself.
2. Adding humor.
Almost everyone can appreciate a good joke. People love to laugh. It releases tension and will generally put someone at ease. Adding in a little humor to your conversation will liven things up.
It will show your date you are not afraid to laugh and you are fun to be around. Be careful of focusing too much on being funny, though. Let it come naturally.
3. Be unique.
Say something interesting or unusual. Avoid being weird, though. Catch your date off guard with something that is not a cliché. Try to go outside the box and be creative.
These three conversation starter tips will help you to start out the conversation on a good note. Plus you can avoid common problems that lead to boring conversation.
The following section gives some examples of what to say to start a dating conversation.
1. Ask if his or her day was as boring as yours.
2. Ask how he or she got their current job.
3. Ask your date if he or she has ever dreamed of living somewhere else and where and why he or she would live there.
4. Comment on the unusual décor of the restaurant.
5. Comment on a current event.
6. Ask your date if he or she has a special hobby.
These are some simple conversation starters that can really take off into a better conversation. You can share back and forth and really get to know more about your date through these conversations.
Always listen attentively and do not take over the conversation. Let it flow and follow the tips and suggestions here to get your dating conversations going.
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