In medival times the ‘keep’ was the central tower that formed the heart of the castle. It was the most defended area of a castle. With that in mind, if we are to ‘keep’ our husband in love with us, we need to always ‘keep’ our husbands needs close to our heart and defend our relationship at all times.
We need to defend our marriage relationship by not allowing it to fall into a boring routine, defending against affairs, maintaining a healthy sex life, defending against being critical, and spending regular, quality time with our husband.
SECRET #1 – DO NOT FALL INTO A BORING ROUTINE
As we ‘keep’ our relationship from falling into a boring routine, we will look for opportunities to pamper and spoil our spouse. Simple acts of thoughtfulness breed reciprocal acts of kindness.
These efforts don’t have to be expensive or elaborate, a tender note in a lunch box, a romantic note left on their wind shield, a short e-mail with a compliment, a unique dinner place setting, or a bedroom invitation written in soap on their mirror.
SECRET #2 – SHORE UP YOUR MARRIAGE AGAINST AN AFFAIR
The best offense in warding off the intrusion of an affair is to have a rewarding, satisfying marriage that meets the needs of both partners. Affairs aren’t about sex, they’re about someones needs going unmet.
These needs are usually emotional in nature, and ones that have been subtlely expressed to their wife, but the plea went unnoticed. Don’t allow yourself to assume that your loving feelings alone will sustain your marriage. It requires daily acts of loving and listening to reinforce a marriage against the intrusion of an affair.
SECRET #3 – ‘KEEP’ YOUR SEX LIFE STRONG
Sex is a basic human need and should take priority over other things in your marriage. The sobering reality is that most spouses are more vulnerable to flirtations and sexual advances from others when their sex life is unhappy at home.
It’s also critical to not only make time for sex but to have open communication with your spouse about both of your sexual needs. Ongoing intimacy keeps a relationships strong, thus, as you maintain a healthy sex life your relationship will remain strong.
SECRET #4 – REFRAIN FROM BEING CRITICAL
It’s easy to criticize your husband for not being perfect while you ignore your own imperfections. It’s important to focus on what you can do and give to your relationship rather than on whether or not your spouse is putting forth an equal effort or has some imperfections.
As you strive to improve who you are, you will become a more happy, peaceful person and this will reflect upon your husband. Not only will their imperfections appear to diminish, they will make improvements as well.
SECRET #5 – SPEND TIME WITH YOUR HUSBAND
It’s difficult to have a successful marriage and experience true love without spending at least one night a week together that is free from distractions of family and work.
This doesn’t have to be an expensive date each week, just time together enjoying each others company and ‘keeping’ your marriage strengthened.
As you put forth the effort to ‘keep’ your marriage strong, you will be amazed at the depth of joy and happiness in your marriage and how your relationship will flourish as it is nourished with these 5 secrets.
Beth Young is the Senior Editor of the leading marriage advise web site,
MarriageAdvise.com. To download your free ebook titled, “101 Marriage Secrets”