Before you hear your own wedding bells ring, have you heard of pre-marital counselling or course?
There are plenty of such courses out there, be it in churches, family service centres or places of religions.Couples pay quite alot to join these courses and at the end of the day, some find such courses a waste of time.
My friend took part in the course with her husband-to-be at that point in time. Her conclusion was that she could have better spent the time at the beach.
In fact, many aspects of maintaining a good relationship can be learnt from planning your wedding.
For instance, when it comes to budgeting, many couples find it really hard to discuss ad come to a common understanding. They have difficulty agreeing what to spend and how much to spend.
Other instances includes the understanding of the value and belief of your spouse-to-be. For example, the bride may feel that she needs to get the best gown and the most expensive bridal package. The groom on the other hand may feel that they should get what they can afford.
More challenges await them when they meet the parents from both sides. Differing family values and beliefs is one aspect to take care of.
Family beliefs such as traditional beliefs and practices at home have to be discussed.For example, the bride’s family may have complicated wedding custom that has to be followed. However, the groom’s family is not particular over such traditions. Complications may arise from such situation as there is a conflict of interest.
Power struggle may arise when other family members or even relatives want to play a part in giving feedback or helping out at the wedding.
For example. I have this friend whose mom allowed her daughter to plan her own wedding. However, the aunties came along to give unnecessary remarks thinking that they are helpful. They did not realize that these concerns became burdens for the bride.
Such difficulties that the bride or groom go through alone could be very good opportunity for the newly-wed to come to consensus how do they want to support each other. This is the time to start learning the kind expectations both parties have on each other, as well as the values and beliefs of themselves and their families.
Wedding preparation is not an easy task. It is not just the marriage of two people, but the marriage of two families.
To go for marriage preparation course, it is completely your decision whether or not to undergo before you get married. But to remember that going for such courses will not guarantee that your wedding will be quarrel or conflict-free. However, It is a good starter to help your relationship with your spouse to blossom.
Always try to keep to keep this in mind, maintaining a good relationship is a life-long journey, and it is not an easy task. Both parties have to understand and give in to each other at appropriate times in order to achieve a harmonious marriage.
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